Some lessons have to be learned the hard way. Running Suan Sati has taught me patience beyond what I ever imagined possible. As you likely know, Suan Sati has had several major setbacks over the eight years we’ve been open. It’s been crushing to see our bank account dwindle to zero multiple times, even though I know that the business has great potential and is beloved by our guests. In the rough phases, patience reminds me that we’ll bounce back, and that better days are coming again no matter how grim the present moment feels. Below are some tips that help me stay grounded when patience is running thin.
- Practice mindfulness. Acknowledging and labeling my impatience already begins to soften it. Noticing what I’m experiencing brings me back to this moment instead of fixating on what I’m missing out on because of having to wait.
- Accept your situation. I feel impatient when I feel I’m being blocked from doing what I really want to do. If I accept the situation I’m in as if I’d chosen it on purpose, then I can release the frustration of wanting to be doing something “better” instead.
- Find the good. I’m famous for letting others cut in front of me in line because I enjoy the pauses that waiting affords. I get to listen to my podcast for an extra few moments, I get to spread some kindness, and I get to practice not getting what I want right away. There is always some good to be found if we’re willing to look for it.
- Remember, better times are coming. Every hard thing you’ve ever experienced has eventually passed. Something might suck in the moment, but it won’t last forever. Believe that things will eventually lighten up or shift in some way, and let that faith carry you through those low moments.
Life is full of waiting, and that waiting can be enjoyable if we practice these little tips. The alternative is avoidable impatience and frustration, so the choice of how you feel while waiting is up to you. Choose wisely and be joyful!
